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Weddings, Reunions, Dental vists, and SHAKE UPS!

So you may have noticed someone has been missing a lot lately. You may have even noticed when he goes missing he doesn’t always explain why. Well…yeah no real explanation, sorry for that.

 

In other news I have been gone meeting old friends, getting massive dental work, and being best man in a wedding. Shout out to Superfans Chris and Ania Moncrief(aka Superman and Lois Lane) who celebrated their love in the classiest of weddings this past weekend.

 

You crashed both the wrong and the right wedding.

You crashed both the wrong and the right wedding.

But that Shakeup word is here again for good reason. 

 

Things are about to get interesting. Not only has WDDIJ been dealing with the …well Hilarious nature of advertising negotiations, but as you may have noticed we’ve lost a few authors. These things are not points to worry over. Trust me. In fact, the very way you view WDDIJ is about to change for the better.

 

In a short explanation, we’re doing an overhaul.

Why?

Because at 5500 views, we are little less than halfway to the year two viewership goal, and its only been 3 months.

In short, I’ve been short sighted.

 

To remedy that, I had to get to work.

And believe you me, the work is paying off.

Launching this fall is our interview series “Imperial Dreams”

Launching sooner rather than later this summer is a new format to the website

And Look for some shake ups in the staff as well.

Nothing drastic folks, but we want you to have a great experience.

And we want you to come to us for more of your daily content.

SO we need to be a place you want to come to.

And since I’ve been slacking on that. It is time to pick up the pace.

Of course I could tell you so much more, but as you know…

WORDS DON’T DO IT JUSTICE!

– THE Ruthless Wonder

White Knights, Rejection, and Internet Movements

THE Ruthless Wonder on a Thursday? …Yep

And before we get into it. Rest In Peace to Maya Angelou. There are tons of poets I know who grew up loving her work. She was one of the early impacts on my writing style, and I know very few women who didn’t at some point quote Phenomenal Woman like it was scripture.

So you’re probably watching that thinking I’m going to make some point. I’m not. Just check out her videos. Seriously. Especially if you’re even slightly geeky.

 

Now let’s get into things.

I get odd writer’s block from time to time. I can’t work on …say, a poem I’ve been crafting for a while, but I can work on say a script I’ve left sitting for a few months, or a short story series I need to get back to(don’t judge me). And then there are times like right now. I have a poem, 2 scripts, 3 short stories, and a novel project all wanting me to work on them, but they haven’t exactly cloned me to do them all at once. If you noticed I didn’t mention blogging, you’re keener than I thought. Yeah blogging comes easily or it doesn’t. Honestly it doesn’t take more than about a half hour to write the piece, and about 20 minutes to edit. But if I’m not in the head space to write it can be laborious.

Most times it’s because the topic I’m talking about isn’t necessarily the one I want to. Why don’t I blog more about what I want to? Because honestly, most times the topic isn’t interesting enough for a blog. To take you behind the curtain for a moment there is a lot to be said for the fact that my topics usually start as something I want to talk about in conversation. And then it develops. For instance, I have a friend who is one of WDDIJ’s superfans, she’s been reading for basically the entire time we’ve been a blog. I would love to talk to her about the fitness culture she belongs to. I rather obviously don’t have a fit form, and most assuredly haven’t gone near crossfit, but its a great conversation to talk about in a blog post. Hopefully, she’ll grace us with a piece, so I won’t have to.

Today’s topic I don’t want to talk about, but not for the usual reasons. I don’t want to talk about it because I don’t want more attention given to the person involved. And most of the planet has hopefully formed an opinion. But just briefly I want to talk about a collateral issue I haven’t seen addressed. The person is Elliot Oliver Robertson Rodger. And the issue I want to talk about is

The effect of white knight rejection.

Whiteknights

Now to a degree I understand the plight of the white knight. In their minds they are defending whatever group from what they perceive as an attempt to bully them. And as a guy who from time to time is the Usurper and not the Emperor, I can get with the idea of the outnumbered or outgunned needing some help. But what happens when the ulterior motive of a Super Villain like myself can’t happen? Well I have to go regroup and come up with a new plan. It is something folks like myself learn very early. Essentially a momentary loss is not permanent unless you let it become one. But I want you to pay attention to the words below.

“My orchestration of the Day of Retribution is my attempt to do everything, in my power, to destroy everything I cannot have… I will kill them all and make them suffer, just as they have made me suffer, It is only fair.”

Those are some of Roger’s chilling words in his manifesto. These are not the words of a stable mind to be sure, but his retribution, and the concept of fairness in it is something we often hear…from those staunch defenders. that what you are doing isn’t fair, or what you said isn’t fair, or that in spite of the kind of person you are in public or private, you getting more attention is not fair. When they are being a good person. When they should be the object of (insert group or gender identity[usually women] here)’s attention and affection. That the kind of person who makes the kinds of comments they disagree with shouldn’t be rewarded by the group. That what the group wants and what it says it wants aren’t the same because the group isn’t into the speaker.

Most of the world can recognize, have dealt with, have said something in that last paragraph. And on the average, while you look a little silly as a white knight in an internet conversation, especially to Super Villains like myself, most white knights don’t heavily internalize enough to go crazy. So why did this asshole? The answer is uncomfortable. He was never all there to begin with. Mental illness doesn’t usually just appear at his age. But that isn’t what I’m blaming here. In my opinion the gunner lost his marbles, because he was already an entitled twit going into his adolescence. With the access he had to successful hollywood, the relative notoriety of his parents, and the environment the kid grew up in, he had that loathsome of syndromes “Self-important Syndrome” You’ve met these people, they believe there is something intrinsically important about them because they are linked to someone else who is for some reason important.

You take that, then you add his tendency to white knight, and his support of the incels on PUAhate(You may recall Wrath of Ruthless co-host Ronin identifying them as having grown some influence in the MGTOW movement as well), and of course a healthy dose of clearly unhealthy expectations about what he brings to the table, and what is needed to get into a serious relationship much less sleep with a woman. Then give him the money and lack of affect to stop caring about the social contract of civilization and you get what happened.

Again this isn’t to say I hate white knights. I think in any conversation(get ready to get mad), they are a necessity. It lets things have a perspective most folks don’t account for. And from time to time, when someone is being actually abusive, the white knight usually helps put a stop to things. But this is at best a dangerous dalliance. A tricky and tenuous alliance. And here I think it does us all a disservice to place all blame on white knights for this twat, or to let them off the hookup entirely. When anyone gets rejected it sucks. I agree wholeheartedly. Even your favorite Super Villain has had been rejected and *gasp* had a few heart breaks over time. But where I basically take it as part of life, this guy, most incels, and what I can only call an alarming amount of MGTOWs see it as some vast female conspiracy. And the most dangerous thing you can do is give a crazy person a platform. And in the end this is white knight rejection at its most disturbing point.

Now you can’t say we didn’t address it, and make the 314 Publishing and Words Don’t Do It Justice position clear…at least from my end. So no more about this cowardly fucker please. I mean I could say so much more about all this but… Words Don’t Do It Justice.

– THE Ruthless Wonder

Shared because after all that you need some good music to remember life is good.

The Wrath of Ruthless: Love your haters

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And here it is. Episode 2 with yours truly THE Ruthless Wonder not A Ruthless Wonder, and my co host this month was none other than The Ronin. Its always dangerous to hear me talk, but add in an original member of the 3 Rs? Well take a listen. As always we have it in the media player, here on this page, and of course available for download.

WoR Ep2<- right click to download

Notes From Your Favorite Super Villain: You are not a unique snowflake…and neither is your kid.

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You…ARE NOT SPECIAL!

I normally don’t break from my planned post. Today’s post was going to be a lead in to next week’s WDDIJ podcast and some reaction to the feedback from my first Wrath of Ruthless podcast. Instead I’m going to address something that I predict now will end with Your Favorite Super Villain receiving hate emails from parents starting with “You don’t know anything because you don’t have kids.” To those people who are sending them, you suck at parenting, because I real parent would understand everything I’m about to say. So let’s get into it.

Your kid is a bully because you suck at parenting.

This all started because in my office we were talking about bullying, cyber bullying and general bully culture. And that’s when I went on a bit of a tirade about the creation of a bully. The reality is kids do not become bullies apropos of nothing. And the modern bully first culture is a development of the same problems exacerbated by technological advancement. Children have no responsibility. And in modern civilization(We’ll talk society vs. Civilization another day), we have decided that permissiveness is better than the mere possibility of stifling potential. The pendulum has swung far in the opposite direction of previous generations. Kids used to rebel because their parents would not allow certain activities. Now they don’t rebel they demand. More tech, better clothes, specialized diets, and the like used to be just general complaints of any kid, now they are the teenaged(and much younger) rallying cry.

But permissiveness has become telling kids over and over how special they are. The belief that if you just tell your kid they are awesome enough times that their self esteem and personal drive will lead them to dizzying heights of achievements among their peer group and the world at large. But this is so wrong it is almost criminal. You are not teaching them to socialize, you are teaching them that they are above reproach, and because children have no concept of social cues or responsibility they bring this mentality along when with other children. But lets go a bit deeper, because this isn’t the only piece.

When you participate in the glorification and then destruction of everything from celebrities to political figures to athletes you teach your children who have no other frame of reference that this is not to be done to each other that it is okay. Let’s use Tiger Woods cause he’s easy to understand. When you take vocal shots at Tiger and his actions you often aren’t explaining that your problem is his infidelity, not his performance prior to it. SO to a kid who hasn’t had the years of understanding the nuanced relationship between personal and professional lives, it seems like it is okay to take on someone who has achieved some separation between themselves and the rest of society. Essentially, that you can be justified in tearing down anyone. And that the higher their profile the more okay it is.

Well what do you think a kid is going to do when they see someone else has an achievement? What about when their peer group clearly sees the other kid has gotten separation between themselves and your kid and the rest? Exactly. You’ve just built a bully. And it doesn’t matter whether the kid is a physical take your lunch money bully, or an internet troll, or one of those annoying 12 year olds who plays online and doesn’t understand how offensive screaming they are going to rape your mom, calling you a faggot, or calling you a nigger really is.

But the inverse is also true. Because a well adjusted kid can both avoid bullying, and avoid being a bully themselves. But that requires you to stop believing you are a special unique snowflake as well. That requires you to know more than just the basics about your child’s school and general socialization environment. That requires you stop being entitled, and annoying, and generally unaware that you are building the kind of monster even we of the Super Villain community dislike. You who do nothing when your 4 year old is being an annoying brat in line…well EVERYWHERE, when they are kicking the seat in front of them on the plane. When they won’t shut up because you brought them to a rated R movie at 9pm on a Friday(I choose to believe God has a special punishment for every single one of you people). And any excuse you have will be met with…then don’t bring your kid there, or do that at another time, or you made the choice so do your DAMN JOB. Yes I just blamed the last 2 decades of internet trolls and bullies on you parents. And do you know why? Because if an adult is being an asshole and gets into a fight over it, it is their fault. BUT, if they’ve always been offending folks for the sake of offense, and now use the internet’s anonymity for it? Well that’s a nurture problem. And that is your fault. Tyler Durden was right, you are not a unique snowflake. You’re an idiot and should never have been allowed to breed in the first place. Since you have, fix your problem, or stop burdening the rest of us.

– THE Ruthless Wonder aka “Lex Luthor”

The Wrath of Ruthless: Birth of an Empire!

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The editing issues are over and I can finally say that the personal show of Words Don’t Do It Justice’s THE Ruthless Wonder not A Ruthless Wonder is ready for your consumption. For the inaugural show The Ruthless Wonder was joined by WDDIJ R Revolution member Reign for 3 topics. It’s a 2 hour show, but we’ve also provided links to the first and second half of the show. This time he’s taking on the Gods of Egypt film controversy, as well as 2 other topics. Listen and enjoy via download or via the WDDIJ media player.

The FULL Episode :

WoR Episode 1 part 1:

WoR Episode 1 part 2:

Notes From Your Favorite Super Villain: No Free Passes

So Sunday I was relaxing and talking to my friends online, and on my cell, and of course in one of my main Facebook groups(Shout out to Geek Illuminati!) and someone had dropped this interesting blog post. Now for those who don’t feel like reading all of that I don’t blame you. Dude’s formatting is hell on toast. But that aside I read the whole thing. Why? Because I was certain there would be something redeeming if I just kept going. First things first, He can most certainly come on here and defend his story, I don’t contend that parts of it didn’t happen. But I do contend with the notion that it was this perfect. I’m not one to spare an idiot offline, and most certainly not online. But even I don’t go on what would be a rather extensive conversation in public situations like the one he describes.

What did he describe? Well to give you the quick breakdown, black guy with white wife comes into the barbershop, calls him the wrong name, and questions why he keeps dating black women while pointing out the very stereotypical issues with them. The two go on to a witty repartee which includes defenses of “because I was raised by a black woman aka My Mom’s black and by insulting black women you insult her. Put a pen in that one I’ll be getting to it. And after some interesting back and forth he finally defeats the blonde bomber to the applause and adoration of everyone else in the room. Followed by the quickest back pedal equivocating on race and relationships I’ve seen since a girl in college said she wasn’t racist because she would fuck black guys, but won’t date them(Don’t worry I looked at her like “The FUCK?” too).

You are reading this note because you know what’s coming. This guy is so wrongheaded he’s dangerous. People read his stuff. Heck I’ve been linked this blog post no less than 40 times since Sunday, and that includes after I announced I was going to take a shot at it today. SO to be fair lets give credit where its do and quickly deal with what I agree with. He’s right, if the race of a person is the main reason why you are dating them, or aren’t dating them, then you’re as bad as his barbershop acquaintance couple turned Straw man argument post. And as someone who’s heard friends names be massacred all the time, I sympathize. After all, if you’re unable to say my real name correctly you may have actual issues.

But credit aside, let’s deal with the number 1 issue. I hate to say I woke up one day and realized everyone saying “you should only be with black women” were full of shit. But I basically did. “If the world is full of so many people, why should I limit myself.” hit me one day, and down the rabbit hole I went. This guy though. Apparently our would be hero blogger believes in the sanctity of the black women(I can hear the hate emails now). I don’t, I should quickly point out why. No one is perfection or in fact perfect. My Mother taught me some time ago that I was going to have to work hard to get respect. And that people should work hard to earn my respect as well. Great lesson honestly. And I love her for it. It put the rest of the world in true perspective.

I don’t respect the woman who gave birth to me because she made shitty choices and was ashamed of me. I give ultimate respect to the woman who adopted me, who raised me, who taught me, and who helped make me who I am today. She is my real Mother as far as I’m concerned. Just as her husband, the man who adopted me, and made sure I knew how to be a man every day of his life until his life was gone is my real Father. But the two of them taught me that just because they love and they wanted the best for me everyone wasn’t the same. And the test of my humanity was figuring that out. What does this boil down to? That just because you share my melanin count, racial or ethnic classification, and anything else you think makes us similar doesn’t mean you deserve or have earned my loyalty or allegiance.

The belief that one’s past should not dictate one’s future seems to roll for everyone right up until this particular phrase gets uttered like it’s the original cardinal sin. My mother was a black teenage girl who left no information about my past including health information and wouldn’t even get involved in the adoption process like a true coward. Should I hate all black women including the one who adopted me? No. Should I give all black women a pass because my Mother, the one who adopted me, cared for me as if she gave birth to me, and has made sure I knew I was loved is a black woman? NO. The duality of my existence is proof such altruistic statements are complete folly. My fathers biological and adoptive are both black men. Should I not doggedly follow the positions of black men  on all subjects too? Dating or otherwise, this is manipulative cop-out BULL SHIT!

Now this article gets into stereotypes to be sure, but let’s break him down a bit. Why does the very suggestion of interracial relationships seem to be the basis of such vicious conversations when black and white people are involved? The oddity of this one being so much about protecting the sanctity of his mother, the perception of all black women who he just described as essentially fishing for male attention, suddenly are as blameless as Mary the mother of Jesus. Look back at it. He doesn’t call the women outside attention whores directly, but you thought it. Why? Because using your vocabulary to hide calling someone an attention starved contradiction is the way intellectuals and unfortunately pseudo-intellectuals operate. And he’s not a pseudo, but when I tell you the threads I’m in where this piece was discussed are overpopulated with them…anyway.

Someone started in with me on this one with a quote about how his Momma’s black and so he doesn’t want to look at them negatively. I responded with  “My Mother is a black woman, but I shouldn’t paint them all with the same positive brush. And because I’m smart enough to realize correlation is not causation, and similarity in one aspect does not translate to all aspects.” And that’s the real point here. You don’t get a free pass from THE Ruthless Wonder for being “Black like me.” I love black women. I love dating black women. But I also know for all the ones I like there are a lot I don’t like. Same with white women. Same with Asian women. Same with every ethnic classification really. I love women. I love dating women. But that doesn’t make me blind to reality. And our guy doesn’t fail to see it here. He stealthily slips in so many caveats at the end that you’re likely to miss as you applaud the confrontation, that really his piece doesn’t say anything. It’s an ego boost. “I defended black women to a white woman who I’ve embellished up to Disney Evil levels(Did you just make her look like the girl from Frozen? lol Sorry for that).” Basically, he made click bait and everyone fell for it.

And that’s why he is today’s subject. Though his piece about men cheating I just got linked from Ms. Auset Noir herself would be worth a Note anyway. So before I get off topic let me truly drop a final super villain thought. You determine who you respect. Isn’t it more proper to respect those who earn it by their actions, not by some preconceived notion of similarity based on skin tone? It’s all good to link up to defeat problems that face all black people. It’s not okay to gloss over flaws because someone looks like your complexion. Just because they look like you, doesn’t mean they shouldn’t be held to the same scrutiny as you would someone who doesn’t. Because if we give every black person a pass for being black, we will never get anywhere.

Scrutiny includes the analysis of the negative. If dialogue on the issues is sought by all, then shouldn’t the discussion start with how do we deal with the facts that paint folks in a particular community(black, American, geek, gamer, laywer, conservative, liberal, hero, human, villain, etc) in a negative light? You can’t correct what you deny. And really, the majority of black men date black women. It isn’t even a close ratio. So don’t come with that loyalty mess. Just because most black men don’t shout down a bruh for marrying a non black woman doesn’t mean every black guy is like, “wait til I find me a good white girl, I’m done with these black chicks.” *And then we all laugh and give dap around the barber shop.* That shit’s ridiculous. So before I start pointing out the hypocrites and tossing shade at you Scandal watchers I’m out. Because Obviously there is more I could say but…Words Don’t Do It Justice.

-THE Ruthless Wonder aka Lex Luthor aka Dio Brando aka YOUR Favorite Super Villain

Send you emails to yourruthlesswonder@gmail.com but I won’t respond till tomorrow, Its time for my birthday celebration.

Watch Your TONE!

I’m back, and the first thing I’m talking about is tone? Has Ruthless gone soft? Not on your life. I’m being very deliberate here. Let’s get to it.

During the break I unleashed a bit of back and forth in the groups I frequent online by dropping some admittedly loaded discussion on them. How did I do this? Well I didn’t go personally provoking people so calm down. I linked up two videos, one per group, where the speaker presented a highly controversial opinion. Did I necessarily agree with the two speakers? Come on people that’s  a softball, I’m rather non-committal about most people’s opinions other than my own. So each speaker was chosen for one reason. They didn’t yell. Why no yelling? Because as we often hear, it isn’t about what you say, but how you say it. But here’s the beautiful notion of this experiment. Them yelling didn’t stop that criticism.

Without divulging the group names we’ll just say that each one was used with their full awareness I was using the discussion for a piece here and were warned that the point of the discussion, was both their reactions and the discussion about them. One of the goals was to challenge some long-standing opinions and beliefs that existed. And see how such a challenge, despite coming with a warning would be perceived. Even my own reactions were a calculated set of responses to keep from turning the discussion into my posting the material and how wrong or right I was. And outside two noted examples where I had to defend myself(1 oddly enough was to someone who’s known me for the last 6 years), the process was flawless. So let’s get back to that general tenor of the discussion bomb I dropped.

Yes despite both speakers(1 male, 1 female), speaking in very calm and rational voices, they were perceived as having turned off people due to their “tone.” A common response to the female speaker being “I’d respect her if she hadn’t said it like that.” But remember, neither speaker was yelling, very few curse words appear, and most of the time anything I would consider inflammatory was combined with study results as evidence. But here’s what I wanted to wait until now to tell you. Both videos lacked the person’s face. And that choice I made to test not only the initial perceptions, but to see if anyone would jump at the chance to take a personal shot at them for not showing their face. And of course they did. Because if this is the test of how welcoming of change American society is, you lot have so many failures among you that we are all in trouble.

So let’s talk about the subject matter. The first was a topic in a group that often talks about relationships. And here I dropped a video from a white woman, who explained why she makes it a point to say she doesn’t date non-white men in her dating profile, despite actually being okay with it. For about 11 minutes, she explains everything from the perception of women who date interracially, to the filtering effect of saying it, to some points which dealt with the kind of black men she and women like her want to avoid. At no point does she yell or otherwise get angry-voiced in the video, but like a good speaker she uses voice inflection at times to differentiate her points. So of course the first thing she got called was a racist slut. And then the group started in on how mean she was, and then when asked most said it wasn’t what she was saying but how she said it. And of course when some group members appeared later on and started defending her points, discussion slowed down as people clearly were either tired of the anger that had ben stirred up, or could not retort in the face of more logic. It should be noted that I don’t really agree with most of what she was doing or her reasoning for it. But I will admit that I see some of the logic. Filter out the people you don’t want to talk to, so you can more easily connect with the ones you do. She’s sneaky, and I of course got called more than a few names for posting it(Which I responded to in trademark fashion), but what I did and didn’t agree with wasn’t a tone issue.

That being said, the second video was a much more tense discussion. Why? Well it was another skirmish in the ongoing tensions between black men and women. Never let it be said I’m uncontroversial. So how was this video different? Well the discussion immediately started with a comment that the unseen speaker may not be black. Seeing that, I knew I was in for a ride I didn’t get the first time. What do I mean by that? Well during the first discussion, most of the people resorted to calling the woman all manner of sexually dismissive names. Even the women who commented aimed at me and her on a level that was F**ked to be sure, but not quite all out. The second video turned into a rage fest so fast I had to ask if people were actually watching the video before commenting. And guess what. They weren’t. Of the people with the most negative comments of both videos, most hadn’t gotten beyond 3 to 5 minutes of the videos. That’s about half of the first video, but only a third at best of the second, which was  15 minutes long.

So what conclusions did we find? Well 1, I’m going to be so much more emotionless and cold in discussion in both groups. But that’s more of an annoyance at my personal treatment when I warn people ahead of time. But more importantly I learned exactly how bullshit that watch your tone statement is. Think about this a bit deeper. To mask their disagreement with the speakers, and their unwillingness to accept the facts presented, they said the person’s tone was off-putting. But their tone wasn’t the real problem. We tell people more flies with honey than vinegar. But clearly that isn’t true. Each speaker took a calm, rational, reasonable, and logical approach. But what was the common complaint? They shouldn’t have said it like that. Now if you’re reading this blog, you know I’m not exactly a fan of subduing any part of my points, much less my tone. But in the face of this I was even more sure of myself. Why? Because contrary information should inform the opinion and update the perceptions. And just because I don’t like what the facts show doesn’t mean I get to ignore them.

And that’s where this post on tone wraps up. If a person is giving you facts, and you have only emotional responses, you lost already. Facts in fact DO trump your feelings. And both of these speakers gave nothing but facts. Do they apply to every single person? Of course not, the white woman didn’t really account for professional black men while deriding most other races(including the racist white guys), and the black man didn’t really get into other subsets of black women in his arguments. But both accounted for this more than once by saying this wasn’t about all of the groups they spoke on. Apparently that wasn’t enough. You will get no such warning from me though. You and I know by now I’m a self styled Super Villain. I embrace the viciousness of my Ruthlessness. And that’s why you read this blog. So to put it bluntly, take your tone comments and shove them right back up where you got them from. I’m back from the bar prep cave. I have a long hit list of people on my shit list, and first up next week are…ah ah ah no spoilers. Get your eyes back on the blog next week for Wrath of Ruthless Part 3. I’d tell you more but…Words Don’t Do It Justice.

– THE Ruthless Wonder